Last night I got to go to an Evening of Recollection for women at our church--always a highlight of my month, when I can make it, and last night was especially so. I wish I could share more of the great points the priest made--I keep forgetting to bring a notepad--but I did note a few good reminders on effective communication. I always need a reminder on this, as it's something I struggle with so much!
1. Always bring grievances out into the open. (This one is so hard for me!)
2. Do not magnify minor annoyances. (Does this one contradict #1? :) Hard to tell--that's my problem!)
3. Always make the meaning of your words clear. Never attempt to read more into a remark than is truly intended.
4. Avoid angry words and bitter statements. Once words get out, it's hard to get them back.
5. Never let bitterness carry over to the next day. (I frequently violate this one as well...goes with #1.)
6. Keep disagreements between yourselves.
Other people, even our spouse, are not perfect and we should never expect them to be. We will never find our ultimate happiness in other people, after all, no matter how wonderful they may be!
Very wise advice!
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